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Fourteen months of paying for a sleep app and I'm still awake at midnight

Blunt maths. Seventy dollars a year is about nineteen cents a night. I don't care about nineteen cents, and neither should you, if it works.

The problem is it isn't working, and you've paid it for fourteen months anyway. Cancel, use a free noise track for a month, and see if anything changes. If nothing changes you've learned the app was never the variable and saved seventy dollars.

98 · in/better-sleep ·

Town sewer is coming down our road and the hookup quote is 18k - do we keep the septic?

Connected three years ago and would do it again, mostly for a reason that is not on any spreadsheet: I stopped thinking about it. No more counting guests at Christmas, no more wondering about the washing machine, no more standing on the lawn after heavy rain looking for the bright green patch. The old tank got crushed and filled per the permit, which was about 1200 of the total.

108 · in/well-and-septic ·

Mine run past thirty hours and everyone talks about migraines like they're an afternoon

Mine are 8 to 10 hours of pain and then roughly a day of feeling like I've been hit by a bus, and for a long time I reported that as "a day and a half."

So part of the variation in answers you'll get is people drawing the boundary in different places. If you count from the first weird symptom: the yawning, the neck stiffness, the word-finding trouble - to genuinely normal, mine is closer to 48 hours. If you count only the pain, it's 9. Same attack, two very different numbers, and that's before anyone's brain is different from anyone else's.

188 · in/migraine-triggers ·

Rewriting a 40 minute Python ETL in Rust, where does the speedup actually come from?

Where Rust actually wins on this shape of job: you can stream records instead of building intermediate frames, you allocate far less because you can parse into borrowed slices rather than a String per field, and you can use every core without dancing around a global interpreter lock. What it does not win on is decompression, disk, or the Parquet writer, which are the same libraries underneath either way. So the ceiling is set by how much of your 40 minutes is actually spent in parsing and hashing rather than in IO.

96 · in/rust-lang ·

Back bed gets four hours of direct sun before the fence shades it out, what actually crops there

I have almost exactly this split: a front bed with sun 8 till 1, and an allotment plot in the open. Same varieties, same compost, sown the same weekend. Chard, kale, leaf lettuce, spring onions, beetroot and mangetout are basically indistinguishable between the two beds. Bush courgette in the shady bed produces, just later and about half as many. Tomatoes, peppers, aubergines and anything you want to ripen sweet are the ones that fall off a cliff, because they are not just running photosynthesis, they are running a ripening clock that needs heat as well as light. Give the four hour bed to leaf and root, put the fruiting stuff wherever your longest light is, even if that is pots on a paved bit.

128 · in/veg-patch ·

Honest hours, how much of April to September does one hive actually take?

Disagreeing mildly with the strict seven day rule. I run a fortnightly interval by choice, with a hive that has plenty of room given early and a queen I have clipped, and I accept that I will occasionally lose a swarm. Over five years I have lost two. For someone with a job and a small child, an approach that survives a missed weekend is worth more than an approach that is optimal on paper and collapses the first time your kid gets sick. Just be honest with yourself that you are trading swarm control for schedule, and put the extra space on before they need it rather than after.

118 · in/backyard-bees ·

Starting Italian at 54: how much does the age thing actually cost you?

I started Norwegian at 61 and passed the B1 exam two years later, so I'll say the obvious thing: it's not your brain. What degrades with age is your tolerance for feeling stupid in front of people, and that's a habit you can rebuild. The first six months I was the oldest person in every class and I hated it. Two years later I was the one holding conversations while the twenty-year-olds were still worried about being wrong.

68 · in/fluency ·

Cut chocolate, cheese and red wine for three months and got exactly the same number of attacks

Disagreeing with the whole trigger-hunting frame rather than the food part.

Single triggers mostly don't work like a switch, they stack. My attacks come when three or four things line up: short sleep, a skipped lunch, a long drive, and the day before my period. Any one of those alone does nothing. All four and it's near certain.

Which means an elimination diet that removes one variable from a threshold system will show you nothing, exactly as yours did. What changed my count was fixing the boring ones, regular meals, consistent sleep and wake times including weekends, drinking properly. Nothing sellable, no list, about a 40% reduction over a year.

167 · in/migraine-triggers ·

Two remote jobs plus a full-time master's: which of the three did you cut?

Do the hours honestly before you decide. Two full-time roles is 70 to 80 real hours if either has meetings, nine credits is realistically 27 to 30 including reading, and that is 100+ before you eat or commute anywhere. There are 112 waking hours in a week at 8 hours sleep.

So you are not choosing whether to cut something. You already cut sleep. The only question is whether you pick the next cut or your body picks it.

118 · in/two-jobs ·