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Four dead plants in a north facing flat: what actually survives me and what am I doing wrong?

Politely disagreeing with the buy-easier-plants advice you keep being given, because most of the lists are dishonest. 'Low light tolerant' means it will survive without dying, not that it will grow, and a lot of those lists include plants that genuinely need a bright room. Sansevieria, ZZ and aspidistra actually will sit in a dim corner for years. Almost everything else on those lists slowly declines and you get blamed for it.

163 · in/plant-rescue ·

Five months out of a six year relationship and I still check her profile most nights

Seven years, ended amicably, and the honest timeline was that the acute part took about four months and the checking took eleven, because the checking was a habit rather than grief. It stopped the week I blocked rather than muted - muting left the door open and I walked through it every night. The formula people repeat about half the length of the relationship is nonsense, mine was nothing like that in either direction.

241 · in/relationship-help ·

Trying to get a payment every month, is stacking quarterly payers worth the bother?

Before building anything, spend an evening putting your 40 holdings in a spreadsheet with their payment months. Most people who do this find they are already reasonably spread and the perceived lumpiness comes from two or three large positions clustering in the same month. Fixing those two is a far smaller job than redesigning a portfolio around a calendar. Four of mine accounted for most of the concentration and swapping one evened the year out.

81 · in/dividend-investing ·

One habit at a time or stack three while the motivation is high?

My own tally over about two years, since you asked for evidence rather than advice.

Attempt one: added three at once in January. Kept zero past March.
Attempt two: added three again in September because I had decided the January failure was about the wrong three. Kept zero.
Attempt three: added one. Kept it.
Attempt four: added one more, eight weeks later. Kept both.

Same person, same motivation, wildly different outcomes based only on the number.

161 · in/habit-building ·

Starting Italian at 54: how much does the age thing actually cost you?

The age findings people wave around are largely about eventual native-like grammar and accent, neither of which you asked for. The constraint I'd actually watch at 54 is hearing. Fast overlapping speech in a noisy room is the hardest listening condition there is, and if you already lose threads in a busy English restaurant, that will be your ceiling rather than your Italian. Worth mentioning to your GP and getting a proper test rather than assuming it's the language.

57 · in/fluency ·

Every call grabs the webcam's mic instead of my good one - how do you make the choice stick?

Worth knowing the platforms behave differently here. On my Mac the app-level choice sticks between sessions and the only time it moves is if the device is physically absent when the app launches. On Windows I hit exactly your problem until I stopped using an unpowered hub - the re-enumeration order after sleep was different each time and whichever audio device appeared first won. Powered hub plus a direct port for the mic fixed most of it before I disabled anything.

86 · in/webcam-and-mic ·