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I can't listen and write at the same time: my notes are complete and I remember none of it

Record the audio and stop trying to capture words. I timestamp instead: a line, the time, and three words about what confused me. Reviewing means jumping to four timestamps rather than rereading eight pages, and it turned four hours of tidying into about forty minutes. Check your institution's rules on recording first, mine required asking the lecturer once at the start of term and every single one said yes.

187 · in/note-taking ·

Team lead role or a lateral into the platform team, which one is harder to undo if I hate it

I will take the other side. The lateral is the riskier one here, and it depends entirely on whether the platform team is funded. A platform team that exists because a VP wants leverage is a great place to be, a platform team that exists to absorb toil nobody wants is a holding pen and they get outsourced or reorganised first in a downturn. Go and ask who their internal customers are and whether anyone would complain if the team vanished.

119 · in/career-moves ·

Two people have told me I interrupt and I honestly do not notice doing it

Half of interrupting is fear of losing the thought. Give yourself somewhere to put it. In meetings I write two words on paper and the urge disappears instantly, because the thought is now safe. Socially, the two words go on the back of my hand or nowhere at all, and I have found that a thought worth saying comes back and one that does not was not worth the interruption.

92 · in/conversation ·

Free utility audit or pay for a blower door test - what did the paid one find that the free one missed?

Check the rebate side before you book anything. In our programme the audit was rebated in full if you went ahead with two or more of the recommended measures within a year, and the insulation rebate required a pre and post audit by an approved assessor anyway. So the paid audit effectively cost nothing and unlocked several thousand of measure rebates. Ring the programme before you ring the contractor.

158 · in/home-energy ·

Show me the actual system you use - I have abandoned three habit apps in a year

Mild heresy: I stopped tracking altogether and it was the thing that finally worked. Tracking became its own habit, and the satisfying part became the ticking rather than the doing, which is why missing two days felt like the project was over.

What replaced it was moving objects. The mat stays unrolled on the floor. The phone charger lives in the kitchen and there is no cable in the bedroom. The language app is the only thing on my home screen. There is nothing to abandon because there is nothing to maintain.

164 · in/habit-building ·

Diagonal drag lines from hip to waist on the back of my trousers

One more thing that gets missed: the shape of the back crotch curve, not just its length. Many patterns use a fairly straight, shallow back curve so they can be graded cheaply. If your body has a more pronounced curve, adding length alone does not do it, you also need to scoop the curve deeper by 5 to 8mm near the crotch point.

47 · in/sewing-fit ·